This is the last installment of a 7 part series on Creating the Life You Love. Today we’re talking about the pinnacle of what it means to live a happy and fulfilled life—living a life for others. Hope you’ll tune in and if it’s helpful for you I hope you’ll share it with your friends. Much love!!
I forgot to include this in the podcast but it’s one of my favorite quotes of all time, reminding us that we get what we want by giving it away!
“Your real, new self (which is Christ’s and also yours, and yours just because it is His) will not come as long as you are looking for it. It will come when you are looking for Him. Does that sound strange? The same principle holds, you know, for more everyday matters. Even in social life, you will never make a good impression on other people until you stop thinking about what sort of impression you are making. Even in literature and art, no man who bothers about originality will ever be original whereas if you simply try to tell the truth (without caring twopence how often it has been told before) you will, nine times out of ten, become original without ever having noticed it. The principle runs through all life from top to bottom. Give up yourself, and you will find your real self. Lose your life and you will save it. Submit to death, death of your ambitions and favourite wishes every day and death of your whole body in the end. Submit with every fibre of your being, and you will find eternal life. Keep back nothing. Nothing that you have not given away will be really yours. Nothing in you that has not died will ever be raised from the dead. Look for yourself, and you will find in the long run only hatred, loneliness, despair, rage, ruin, and decay. But look for Christ and you will find Him, and with Him everything else thrown in.”
― C.S. Lewis, Mere Christianity
“Love is holy because it is like grace–the worthiness of its object is never really what matters.” Marilynne Robinson
What are the ways you can love the people in your life?
1. Stop pretending. Take baby steps toward living in your own skin. Stop holding back. Love with your whole heart and stop counting the cost.
“I’m writing this in part to tell you that if you ever wonder what you’ve done in your life, and everyone does wonder sooner or later, you have been God’s grace to me, a miracle, something more than a miracle.
2. Stop waiting and hiding. You think it’ll be easier to live this way at some designated point in the future when you get your life together. That point is very allusive and probably not a reality for most of us.
3. Start small and start today. Do the next thing you can do to love and serve the people around you. Make a meal. Sit and talk. Do the laundry. Serving your people well is not about one act of giant heroism, it’s about a thousand little ordinary acts of love and kindness.