This is day 6 in a 31 day series on hospitality. You can start from the beginning here.
Brave hearts shine with the divine presence; like God they are free, they are welcoming and accepting, they are strong yet gentle. They are wondrously available.
You have all the same excuses I do for not opening yourself to others.
You’re busy. You don’t have the skill set. Their problems are too much. Their life is a mess. Your life is a mess. You’re too impatient. You’re not kind enough. You don’t even like them. You don’t have anything to offer. What does it really matter?
Turns out, in the end, it’s all that really matters.
All that other stuff we spend most of our lives doing—-that’s what doesn’t matter. Trust me, I’m the queen of meaningless minutiae.
But those people that we pass by everyday, that we discard, that we overlook, that we disdain, that we can’t stand, that we don’t get—-those people need us and we need them.
So let’s call the problem what it is.
We are selfish, prejudice, self-centered, arrogant, and desperately afraid.
We are afraid that we’ll be exposed for what we really are. We are afraid of rejection. We fear people who aren’t like us. We are too self-absorbed to be bothered.
And if those are not your barriers to making yourself available to others, you know what yours are. We’re all in the same sinking ship.
But here’s one thing that is true. You can spend your whole life hiding behind possessions and gadgets and busy-ness and fear and you will never know the joy of true relationship.
Yes, it will break your heart. Yes, it will be messy and terrifying. Yes, you will be broken and humbled and changed.
But the alternative is a mediocre loneliness that will eventually smother you to death.
Open your heart and live.
Your willingness to be alive and vulnerable will welcome others to do the same.
When you extend your heart to someone, you are, in bravery, extending them a lifeline.
Be brave. Step into the light. Someone’s life is hanging in the balance. And the irony is—–it may be yours.
quote above from Radical Hospitality by Lonni Collins Pratt